both my boys curled up in the crib.
Tears sprung to my eyes as I gazed at my 11 year old protectively curled up with his sleeping 2 year old brother. Soccer dude gave me a sheepish grin and whispered, “he doesn’t like sleeping alone.”
When we began the journey of adding to our family through adoption one of the questions that weighed heavily on our hearts was how it would affect our first two children. We wondered if adding more children would spread us to thin. Would they bond with a new sibling? I even asked myself silly questions like could they handle sharing a room and their toys.
We had one boy and one girl. The perfect family, or was it…..
I am so glad that God called us to step out of our comfort zone to adopt.
Sure we would have had more money to spend on gadgets. I probably wouldn’t be sporting the dark circles under my eyes from added sleepless nights. If there were only two, I might run them around to added activities. The college fund would be bigger. I wouldn’t be as scatter brained from running after 4 energetic young’ns and parent retirement would come earlier.
It can be confusing because our culture holds all of those things in high regard.
What we have learned:
Having your own room is overrated, but having a best friend always ready to play barbies – priceless. When we were pulling out the toys and clothes Roo had out grown we did hear “Hey, that was mine.” But, we are pushing through the selfishness and finding the gem of sharing.
When our new addition fights against our family ways – we have learned that grace covers differences. Rice and spaghetti can go together. Trust us.
Soccer Dude had to move his lego collection to the play room in order to make room for the crib. Some might think that is to much to ask of an 11 year old. When I look at my boys who adore each other – I think of what we would have lost if we hadn’t made room for one more.
I thought this was a journey to add to our family – actually it has been a journey that has helped my faith and our family to grow in ways I never could have imagined.
Adoption is worth it.